Who Have You Become?

May 10, 2018

Hey! Come in, have a seat.

I know that over the years you've grown from a quiet, over thinker to the seemingly confident and decisive person you are now. Although we may not have officially met, I'm proud of you. I'm proud of your progress and your decision to intentionally develop yourself in areas that weren't working for you. One question that I have for you is do you love the person you've become?

"People change and forget to tell each other."
- Lillian Hellman

If you've been rocking with me for a while you know that I'm all about progress, change, and personal growth. As a coach to people who have goals they want to crush, I have the privilege of helping my clients transform into goal-getters that get the results they've been craving for years! Trust me, personal development is my obsession. On the flip side of things, I've watched friends transform into cold-hearted, ignorant monsters while professing to have experienced personal DEVELOPMENT. This is dangerous.

"Personal development always includes enhancing your character."
- Tee Forever

Do you recognize yourself?

I mean really? Pause right here with me for a second and answer this question. Do you recognize the person that you've become? Is your life aligned with your core values or has "personal growth" steered you away? I'm not talking about core values that are based on superstition or tradition. I'm talking about core values like the golden rule, to treat others the way you want to be treated, to honor your parents, to honor marriage, and so on. I know that outwardly your life might be progressing but you will never feel complete satisfaction and peace until what you believe and what you do are in sync.

Let's identify some of your core beliefs

Right now let's spend some time unlocking your mind to find core beliefs that you might be suppressing.

Step 1. Answer this question: What do you believe is true about life? Write down everything that comes to mind. Include things you were taught and things you picked up along the way as you got older.

- I believe that no matter how crazy my personal life gets God is always in control.
- I was taught that if I get in a fight and get beat up, when I get home I'll get more "licks" (beating) for losing! Lol!

Step 2. After you've listed all of your beliefs including the things you were taught, begin to separate the good beliefs from the bad beliefs and place them in two separate groups.

Good Belief:
God is always in control

Bad Belief:
I can never lose a fight

Step 3. Review each good belief one-by-one and ask yourself: If the closest people in my life knew that I believed this would they be surprised or would they confirm that they can see this belief expressed through my life?

The great thing about this exercise is not only that it helps you to develop self-awareness, but you're now in a position to decide which beliefs you want to align your life with and which ones you want to let go of. 

Personal growth is only growth when it adds to your life, not destroys it. Stay humble, honor God, and love people. Until next time, 


Theresa Forever

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