How I Stay Disciplined

June 24, 2019



Help! My goals are a mess, I don't know what I'm doing, and I feel stuck! Just raise your hand if you've ever been there! Yup, I raise my hand with you! I've struggled to crush MANY goals! I remember there was a time when all I did was brainstorm, create strategic plans and TRY to overcome procrastination. It took me a long time to crack the code!

No matter how many times I wrote my goals down on paper and committed it to memory, I couldn't get myself to get it done! I felt stuck. Especially when it came to simple goals like food and diet. It was almost like I had no control over myself. I really wanted to achieve my goals, but I didn't want to force myself to do (or eat for that matter) things that I didn't enjoy! The truth is, I simply did not want to exercise self-discipline.

Let's Be Honest...

Who actually enjoys disciplining themselves? Like, do you know ANYONE who gets excited about cleaning the bathroom every Saturday or meal planning every Sunday? Lol, me neither! And it's because discipline doesn't come naturally to us. Think about this, society is set up to create discipline for us without teaching us how to become disciplined. Don't believe me? Keep reading!

In North America, most of our life is spent with other people telling us what to do and holding us accountable to do it. Were expected to attend school from about age 4 until you were 19 years old. Then we are either expected to study some more which means attending college or university until age 24 or we can get a job straight out of high school. No matter which route we take we end up spending the rest of our life working and this means having someone tell us what to do and hold you accountable.

This kind of system is normal and has taught us to depend on an external structure to be disciplined. We need someone watching over our shoulder to make sure that we follow through on what we're expected to do because we don't have enough discipline to get it done by ourselves. We need someone to monitor our lunch breaks because we don't have the discipline to get back to work on time, right?

Most people never learn how to be disciplined so when they try, they end up like I did...confused, frustrated, and ineffective. But just because you start off this way doesn't mean this is how it has to be for the rest of your life.

Discipline Is Easier Than You Think...

Discipline is about leaving behind what's good, for what's best. Although it might mean practicing a few extra rounds in the gym or turning down dessert at your favorite restaurant, discipline is consistently choosing things that will get you the highest return and bring you the best results.

Discipline is bigger than just doing what you don't want to do, it's self-love. Why do you think someone can go from being a meat lover who hates eating vegetables and salads to becoming someone who eats a mostly plant-based diet?  Do you think that all of a sudden they stopped loving meat? Or maybe they got tired of eating meat?

No, they learned a way of eating that helps their body to perform at a higher level and decided that instead of compromising and settling for minimal body function they want to treat their body better. They are thinking long-term! They want optimal health! They saw the value in changing their diet and changed. This is the essence of self-love.

When you see value in yourself it's easy to create a structure that will lead you directly to your goal.
Discipline is that structure, but developing it is not easy. Trying to have discipline without a strong motive won't work.

That's exactly what I was doing when I set the goal to get my license and buy a car (I share this in the podcast). My motive wasn't clear and therefore it wasn't strong enough to get me moving. I wanted a car so that I wouldn't have to rely on public transportation, but deep inside I was okay with public transportation. It was convenient there was a bus stop right across the street from my house at the time. It was comfortable, I had been riding the bus since I was a kid, and it was safe. I knew my way around the city. My reason for getting a car wasn't compelling enough for me to actually take action.

Here is a quick self-awareness exercise 

Answer these yes or no questions to get a better understanding of your relationship with discipline - Want a free, in-depth walkthrough? Listen to this episode!

1. I am still in the same position that I was in just last year
2. I am still struggling with the same limitation, excuses, and feelings that have kept me from crushing my goals
3. I have you been self-sabotaging my progress by not becoming...
4. I allow myself to get off the hook easily with excuses like "I'm tired, I worked hard today I deserve a break so I'm not going to work on my goals tonight"
5. I prefer the planning process over taking action

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After you honestly answer these questions decide how you want to move forward. Do you want more structure in your life? Are you going to get some form of accountability? How will you break the cycles of procrastination in your life? Do you need a stronger, more compelling why to pursue your goals?

There is a famous quote that says "one day or day one". This mean you can choose to postpone your goal eventually get started one day or you can tell yourself that today is the day that you start working toward it. The choice is yours. Have a question, feeling inspired, or just want to say hi? Send an email to community@theresaforever.com. Until next time, your girl

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal

Nothing Outside of You Can Stop You From Crushing Your Goals

June 17, 2019



Ever wonder why you can't seem to overcome procrastination or develop a habit of self-discipline? Maybe right now you find yourself struggling to follow through on your goals because you simply don't have time or you think it takes money to make money and right now you just can't afford it. If this sounds like you, pay attention because today I'm going to walk you through how I achieve my goals by practicing the habit of self-discipline.

What is self-discipline?

I heard a great definition by Will Smith. He said self-discipline is a form of self-love. When you love yourself you have a desire to take care of your mind, body, and soul. You want to protect the treasure that in buried within your heart. You understand that you're valuable and to function at your highest level you have to eat things that will support your body and help you to have optimal health so that you can consistently perform at a level that serves your purpose and ultimately leads you into your destiny. Self-discipline is choosing your highest good in every situation.

Here's an example: 

When you notice that your body is physically out of shape and you decide that you want to get back in shape so that you can wear anything you want without doubting how attractive you look, and you also want to enjoy more physical activities outside like running around at the park with your kids or taking long walks across the beach. Whatever it is, you decide you want to be physically fit so you start eating natural, clean, whole foods like fruits and vegetables, right? You meal prep and then you go into work the following week and they have your favorite lunch waiting for you in the kitchen at the office! Chinese food! MMmmmmm! They have your favorite deep fried chicken wings with the sweet and sour chicken balls and you're all time favorite pork fried rice. Woouu! It's tempting right. You want to compromise and have a little taste of the fried rice but at the same time, you have put a lot of work into being consistent with your diet. Your torn between what's best for you which is sticking with your meal plan and what feels good to you right now at the moment which would be eating every last crumb of the Chinese food. Which one do you choose? I want you to think about it right now.

If you're like most people your fitness goal ended right there in your office kitchen. Science has shown that 91% of people do not achieve their goals. Is it because their lazy? No. because they did get started so we know that they are willing to take the necessary steps to eat healthier and prepare better meals, right. Did they change their mind and now think they don't need to get fit? Of course, they still feel insecure and self-conscious. Maybe now they also feel like a failure because they compromised their goal for a quick fix. So what is it then? If their not lazy and they still see their need to get healthy, what is stopping them from crushing their goal.?

They are stopping themself.

Get Out Of The Way

Until you understand that you are your only competition your life will be a continual cycle full of distractions. Nothing outside of you can stop you from crushing your goals. The battle that you face and the tension that you feel inside is related to whether or not you are willing to dismiss and completely reject temporary gratification.

How much do you want your goal? Think about it right now. Out of 5, how much do you want to experience your big dream of working for yourself, becoming a best selling author, having passive income that replaces your full-time income, impacting your community, losing the excess baby weight, or whatever your big goal is. What would you do in order to experience that goal? What are you willing to let go of and stop doing so that you can focus on pursuing that goal?

This is where most people kind of trip over themselves and start self-sabotaging because although they strongly believe that they want to be successful they are not willing to let go of short term gain to produce long-term wins. They don't want to say no or practice portion control with the Chinese food because eating it makes them feel satisfied in the moment, but in the long run, they end up feeling hopeless, tired, insecure and defeated.

Keep Your Eyes On The Prize

To develop a habit of self-discipline you have to remind yourself why your goal even matters. What will being healthy do for you? How will it affect your family? How many years of your life will you get back? How much longer will you live once you don't have to worry about diabetes, high blood pressure, and other health problems? Who will you become once you lose the weight? How will you present yourself differently to the world? What will your social life look like? What about your dating life? Keep your eyes on the prize!

"Be stubborn about the long-term vision but flexible on the details. 
- Jeff Bezos

Become someone who loves yourself enough to say no to every distraction that attempts to steal your heart away from the things that you desire the most. Become someone who values your purpose more than your comfort. Become someone who is led by a vision of what's possible instead of drowning in what you currently see.

We all know that short-term gratification comes with a high price tag. So the next time you're offered a short-cut that leads you away from your goals, stop, evaluate the cost, and then make a sober decision to keep the promise you made to yourself and follow through with your goals. Until next time, your girl

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal



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Think Big, Aim High, Act Bold




How do I turn my goals into reality is a question I get asked all the time. Do I need to become more disciplined? Learn the right strategy? Or connect with the right people? All of these things can help, but they are not what determines how close you get to achieving your goals. Tony Robbins said it best “the path to success is to take massive, determined actions.”. If you want to start seeing results with your goals it's time to think big, aim high, and act bold!

Your Only Limit Is In Your Mind: Think Big

Think about someone in your life who whenever you talk to them you feel tired and drained. All they do is complain about how sick they are, how much money they don't have, or how they just can't get ahead. Now think about someone who inspires you. You know the person at work who is always smiling. What is it about them that encourages you to want to be around them? Is it their attitude? Maybe it's their friendliness? Nope! I'll tell you what it is. The only difference between the first person you thought of and the second is their mindset.

I know we hear this word thrown around a lot right? There are mindset coaches and people who can help you to master your mind so that you can begin living your best life, but what exactly does mindset even mean?

When I joined Money Mindset Shift, a program that helped me to understand how to create long-term wealth and develop my relationship with money I wasn't sure about what mindset meant. I had a surface level understanding and thought we would work on my thoughts related to money or examine my behavior with money to see how I can improve my thoughts, but truth be told lol, I was clueless!

After enrolling in the program I quickly began to understand that my mindset is the core of who I am inside. It determines my decisions, beliefs, perspective, and feelings. My mindset is packaged in every word I speak. My mindset is revealed in every step I take. My current situation (good and bad) in life is a direct reflection of my mindset. When I understood this I was blown away and challenged to get smart about what I allow into my core (mindset) and to clean up the money mess I had created.

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When you understand that your only limit is in your mind because your mind is the core of who you are (it's like your control center) and you create your life, business, family, and so on out of this place then you'll able to conquer your biggest challenges. Nothing outside of you can stop you from crushing your goals. Big thinking helps you to see possibilities, find solutions, and work through challenges. Big thinking unlocks your ability to be resourceful. It produces wisdom and helps you to apply the knowledge you have to get the results you want.

"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." - Albert Einstien

You get in life what you have the courage to ask for: Aim High

I remember reading a quote by Solomon Ibn Gabriol that said, "a wise man's question contains half the answer." What! That is deep, profound wisdom! Of course, I quickly posted it to twitter and I couldn't wait to see the comments roll in!

How do I turn my goals into reality? This is a question that is clear, direct, specific, and intentional. It opens the door to resourcefulness and helps you to pave a new path, almost like putting a puzzle together, it stimulates your creativity and helps you to find a way to get it done. You already have everything you need to succeed you just have to take action.

"You get in life what you have the courage to ask for." - Oprah Winfrey

Aim high. Ever wonder why two people who grew up in the same environment can turn out completely different? One becomes a successful purpose-driven entrepreneur who supports charities and gives back to local schools while the other can barely keep a job, struggles to develop deep meaningful relationships, and feels lost (lacks a sense of definite purpose). What happened? I think it can boil down to a few things one of them being their expectation in life.

The purpose-driven entrepreneur believed that regardless of his current situation of lack and poverty he will master life. He will figure out how to create a brighter future for himself and his family. He turned his setbacks and disappointments into fuel to pursue his goals. The other guy who experienced the same trials as the first interpreted his experience as fate and convinced himself that he could never keep a job, he wouldn't be able to get ahead in life, and no matter what he did he would stay at the bottom.

When you think big (clear and master your mindset) and aim high (ask the right questions and create a plan for your success) you set yourself up for massive growth! Nothing external can stop you from achieving your goals but you. It's that simple.

Trust Yourself: Act Bold

Robert Frost said, "Freedom lies in being bold." If you never take the first step to achieve your goal don't you think you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "what if I had written that book? What if I had taken that opportunity to speak at that conference? What if I had started that business and passed it down to my grandchildren? What if...?"

50 years from now will you look back on your life with regret or will you share your story with pride inspiring your grand and great-grandchildren to think big, aim high, and act boldly? Will you feel a sense of completeness like your work on earth is done or will you feel unsettled because you never got that song out into the world, you never finished writing that book, or you never launched that blog.

You can't always see how your actions will affect others but believe me when I tell you, what seems small to you can have a big impact on someone you may or not know. Your dreams were given to you for a reason. Choosing not to do it, is not an option. Don't you think you've delayed it enough? It's time to get busy turning your goal into something tangible. I want to see results. I want to see a physical manifestation of your years of studying, mentorship, and training.

You don't have to have all of the answers, you just have to get started. You don't have to know all of the right people, you just have to get started. You don't have to know how to do it all yourself, you just have to get started!

"You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." - Zig Ziglar

Until next time, your girl tee forever stop dreaming and start doing.

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal



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Create Your Success From The Inside Out




What is your definition of success? What is it that you want to see happen in your life and without it, you would feel incomplete like there's something missing, or like your mission has not been accomplished? I'll tell you, for me, I believe that we were all created with a purpose. We were each uniquely designed to do or create something specific. So for me, I would feel like my mission in life has not been fulfilled if I don't tap into my higher purpose, find out what I was created to do, and walk that out.

I don't know about you but sometimes I spend time wondering how successful people created their success. Like Beyonce, how did she grow her influence? Or Bill Gates how did he develop the idea to invent a product that people can't live without? Or Dr. Sesus how did he create a series of books that are now timeless classics? You might look at these questions and find simple answers like Beyonce was signed to a major record label and had the support of a good marketing team and publicist, or Bill Gates was a genius with a lot of experience, however, the answer is much deeper than that.  

Successful People Think Differently

They aren't subdued or conquered by fear or disappointment. They don't grow impatient with themselves when they make a mistake or fail. They see things as it relates to their big picture. They aren't distracted by things that are meant to serve as temporary delays. They don't get caught up in people's opinions. They experience fear but are not fear driven. They feel the sting of disappointment, but they don't allow it to define who they are and what they can accomplish. They see the challenges they are up against, but they don't turn it into an excuse or reason why they can't achieve success.

Your reason for pursuing your goal (meaning your why) has to be bigger than the surface level satisfaction you will feel once you do. This means your goal has to be connected to your ultimate purpose. You have to know that your goal is worth pursuing, that it matters, that it makes a difference. You have to connect the dots and understand how your current decisions and actions will affect future generations. Think about this, how will crushing your goal set a new standard for your kids and grandkids? Seriously! Lol

You might be thinking "Tee, it's not that deep! My goal is only to lose 10 lbs" or "my goal is only to generate some extra income" but think about how pursuing this goal will change your life and in effect change generations after.

For Every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction: Newtons 3rd Law

We will always reap what we sow. There is a consequence for every action so when you decide it's time to get in shape and you stop buying food that doesn't support growing healthy gut bacteria, and the production of vitamins and healthy cells in your body then and only then will you change your family history. Then and only then will you begin to impact your community for the better. Then and only then will you become a role model, a standard, a light for others to follow. Does that make sense?

Your choices directly affect those around you (friends and family) and your community. I want you to remember this every time you tell yourself "I don't have the discipline to achieve this goal, I don't have enough money or experience, or I don't know where or how to start."

Instead of believing these excuses take out your journal and write down solutions. Write down the thought and then underneath it write a realistic way that you can get it done. For example: (share the example below):

Example:
Problem: I don't have the discipline to achieve this goal 
Why I believe this/Proof this is true: I never follow through on my goals, I never meet deadlines
Solution: Get accountability - friend, family, coach, mentor, community

Your perspective determines what's possible

If you see the world as being a cold and dark place that is what you will experience. If you see life as being long and hard this is exactly what you will get. If you don't want to see the light at the end of the tunnel you will remain in darkness. Your perspective determines what you see and how you see determines what's possible for you.

So whether you have a big business goal to triple your income in the next 6 months or a personal goal to mend some broken relationships how you see the situation is what will determine the outcome and every action you take will return an equal and opposite reaction to you. Until next time, your girl

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal



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5 Lessons I’ve Learned From Sharing 101 Blog Post

June 10, 2019


Wow, we've made it to 101 blog post! Can you believe it? When I first got started I knew that I wanted to build a community of like-minded goal-getters who were serious about turning their goals into reality, but I wasn't exactly sure how I was going to do it. I also knew that I wanted this space to be a place where you could come and get practical personal and business advice, solutions, and resources even if your idea was still in seed form and hasn't been planted yet.

This is my 102nd blog post and let me tell you, I feel super grateful! With over 13,000 visitors in the past 18 months, I thought it would be fun to share 5 of the biggest lessons I've learned since hitting publish on my very first blog. Here we go!

LESSON #1: DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT

I can't tell you how many times I've written, and then rewritten a blog only to come up with a new idea and have that replace the old one! Lol, am I the only one? Maybe for you it wasn't a blog post, but I'm sure you probably had a moment last week where you got all dressed up, slipped into your favorite shoes and as you were about to head out the door you took one final look at yourself and decided that your cute little outfit didn't look as cute as it did in your bedroom so you quickly changed into something a little more suitable. Am I right?! Yeah! You know what I'm talking about!

It's called perfectionism!! We all have it to some degree and let's be honest, if we really got to the root of it we would see that it is based in fear.

After hitting publish over 100 times I've learned that as the book of Ecclesiastes says "finishing is better than starting" and done is better than perfect.

LESSON #2: IT'S OKAY TO LEARN AS YOU GO

When I first started out in my personal development journey I was eager to learn everything there was to know about leadership, influence, and people so I studied psychology. I devoted my time to learn from leaders like John Maxwell, Brian Tracy, and Zig Ziglar. They not only inspired me to make a difference in the world, but they taught me the principles to get it done.

Whether or not to start my blog wasn't a decision that I had to sit and think about for months. The idea came to me one night, I mentioned it to my husband, and within a few days I was writing and I had published my first blog. I didn't do any research about how to blog, what to blog about, which website I should host my blog on, how to launch a blog, and so on. I just had an idea, followed through on the idea, and turned it into something real, something tangible, something that could benefit my community.

You don't need all of the pieces of the puzzle before you start putting it together. Sometimes you just have to start and the pieces will begin to appear. Martin Luther King Jr said it best, "take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step."

It's 100% okay to learn as you go. You will discover things about yourself that you won't be able to see by simply reading a personal development book or talking to a mentor. You develop a stronger voice when you practice your gift of speaking. You find your writing style once you make time to sit down and start writing. You will only experience your full strength in anything when you don't get stuck in the planning phase and decide that it's your time to start.

LESSON #3: MY RESULTS ARE DIRECTLY RELATED TO MY LEVEL OF CONSISTENCY

This is a golden nugget. If you have not taken notes on anything I've said, you need to write this down (or simply copy and paste, haha!). The results you have in your life are a direct reflection of your consistent behavior.

This is good news! This means that if you like what you see, continue to do what you're already doing. However, if you're frustrated, disappointed, or fed up you need to change what you're doing and develop consistency doing things that will benefit you.

You see when I started my blog I wanted to post consistently, but I was busy, disorganized, and full of good ideas which means my brain was scattered! I wanted to do this project, and then work on that big opportunity, and then collaborate with other bloggers. My hands were in too many things and this caused me to feel overwhelmed which often led to burnout which meant I would skip writing and no blog would be posted.

Over time as I became more focused and intentional about my mission with the blog, building a relationship with you, and serving you the best goal achievement practices I noticed something magical. The more committed and consistent I was to post every week resulted in more commitment and consistency from you to show up and read them. Not only did you show up and read them but you enjoyed it so much that you would also sign up to receive weekly notifications when they were ready!

This was a game changer for me because it proved the principle that what I sow is what I reap. What I give is what I get. What I put out into the world is what will come back to me. This is not only true for blogging, but it also applies to everything we do in every area of our life. If you don't like what you see, then change what you're doing. Be consistent and eventually a healthier tree will grow and you will get to enjoy its fruits! 

LESSON #4: NEVER UNDERESTIMATE YOUR POTENTIAL

Say this with me, "I am capable of more than I think". Say it again, "I am capable of more than I think". How did that feel? Take a moment and think about it. If you have a journal write it down.

When I first started this blog 18 months ago I envisioned it being a small, reliable, community filled with people who were excited about life, their purpose, their future, and their potential impact on the world. I wanted to inspire big dreamers to stop putting their goals on hold and to begin pursuing them now. I wanted to remind people stuck in procrastination that their current struggles don't have to follow them into the future. I wanted this to be a place where goal-getters could come together, feel understood, approved, and alive! As a result of this goal, this is what happened...

18 months later I've been able to develop a real, friendship with you! This is GOLD! I feel like I've hit the jackpot because now I feel a real sense of community around empowering others to do what some would label impossible, to live a life that is aligned with your purpose, and to aspire to heal the world one life at a time!

This is powerful! To see it in full effect is shocking and inspiring because I didn't think that I could build this in such a short amount of time, and if I'm honest, I didn't know if I would actually do it.

I underestimated my potential and glorified my flaws and weaknesses. In the beginning, I focused on what I thought I could and couldn't do and what I should or shouldn't say. Inside I was a mess. Struggling with self-doubt and insecurity while at the same time knowing and believing with all my heart that this is something I was made to do.

Is this where you are?

If this is you my message is simple, you are capable of more than you think!

LESSON #5: AUTHENTICITY IS THE SECRET SAUCE TO INFLUENCE

Over the past 18 months of blogging my influence has shot through the roof! Why? Is it because I am uniquely gifted in writing? Is it because people are inspired by my work? Is it because God destined for me to do this? Well, all of the above could be true or it could have nothing to do with it. What I do know for sure is that being myself, sharing my heart, my life, and my goals with you have been the secret sauce to my ever-growing influence.

"Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care."
- Theodore Roosevelt

People are attracted to real people. We live in a social media crazed generation where we attempt to fill our need for connection by following people we admire which is okay, but we tend to forget that on social media we only see other people's highlights. We only see what their life looks like when things are going well. We only get to see them through a filter. It's not the whole picture.

Here, on my blog (as well as on social media) I try to share the good, the bad, and the ugly. In this post on Instagram I opened up about having a bad day, being sad and allowing a warm smile to melt my heart. In this blog post Face Your Challenges I talk about how much junk I discovered while doing the self-awareness challenge with you and how I plan on working through my personal junk.

These posts were intentional.

I don't want you to only be inspired by my good days and my growing family. I want you to see my real life. I want you to be able to see yourself in me. I want you to know that if I could create such a beautiful story with my life after becoming an orphan at the age of 15 then you can too. I want you to see that if I can clean up my debt and work through a financial plan that will help me to build generational wealth then you can too!

Authencity and sharing your life with others is the secret sauce to your influence. Maybe we can talk about this in another blog. Comment below and tell me if this is something you want to hear more about!

HERE'S THE TRUTH:

Blogging has not been easy. I don't always feel like I have brilliant ideas, I don't always feel inspired or know what to talk about, and I don't always want to post. However, blogging has been such an amazing experience and it has opened the door to opportunities that I had no idea I would be walking through.

After hitting publish on 101 blogs here's one thing that I definitely know for sure: I would not have this platform if it wasn't for you!

Thank you for supporting me. Whether it's on social media (Instagram or Twitter), in a Facebook group, or by subscribing to my email list. I want you to know that I see you, I read your emails and comments, and I appreciate you.

All of my late nights writing and creating resources and worksheets for you to create realistic goals is because I truly believe in you. I know that you would not be a fan of this blog if you weren't a goal-getter so I do my best to bring you the most practical solutions for your struggles.

You are my inspiration and I'm blessed to be your friend, mentor, and coach. Cheers to the next 18 months of personal and business growth, expansion, and breakthroughs! Until next time, your girl

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal

Life With Baby Number 3!

June 5, 2019


I am speechless! For those of you who may not be following me on social media, more specifically Instagram, you may not know this, but I've been busy cleaning, preparing, and anxiously waiting for baby number 3 to arrive! The estimated due date was June 6th, but as you can tell by the title of this blog he arrived early! And yes, I said HE! Lol, we welcomed our baby boy into our family of four and the girls (Layah and Maya) are super excited to have a little brother!

Surprise! It's A...!

My labor lasted for 25 hours! Now if you don't have any kids you're probably thinking "what in the world!" but let me help you to get a better picture of what this means, you ready? Imagine getting sharp cramp like pains that shoot up through your lower abdomen and back and last between 40-60 seconds coming and going every 5-8 minutes? Do you get the picture? Doesn't sound like fun, does it? Trust me, it's intense!

So, the contractions started (contractions are simply your body sending out signals that it is preparing to release the baby) around 9:30 pm and of course, this meant that I would get NO SLEEP. By this time, everyone was in bed (including my husband) and I was listening to an audiobook by David Schwartz called The Magic of Thinking Big

I didn't want to be the girl who cried wolf so I waited 2 hours before I woke my husband up and let him know I was in labor. Now, listen. We have 2 girls. For both pregnancies when I was laboring through the night he slept like a baby! No matter what I tried he would not wake up so imagine my surprise when he jumped out of bed and whipped into action right away. I was impressed!

Fast forward a few hours, hubby and I jumped into the car. He drove like a mad man and we got to the hospital in 5 minutes! The hospital is actually 10 minutes away so it might've been longer but at this point, my eyes were closed and I was trying not to have the baby in the car, okay! Lol

The contractions were growing stronger, I was getting tired of the pain. All I wanted was to have this baby out of my womb and in my arms. Upon arriving at the hospital my midwife confirmed that I was +2 and fully dilated which means, this baby was just about ready to slip out onto the floor! Lol, crazy right?!

We made it to the delivery room, the baby comes and my midwife asks " do you know what gender the baby is?". I said "no" and she smiled at me and said, "it's a girl!". I was excited! I wanted to see her, hold her, and give her a name! She placed the baby down in front of me and I quickly made eye contact with him! "It's a boy!" I said with a huge smile.

My husband was standing beside me doing his best to support me through the process. When he heard me say "it's a boy" he looked over at the baby with admiration and I knew at that moment that he felt proud. He finally had his baby boy!

Life With 3 Under 3

Now it's only been 4 days, but I have to say that life with 3 under 3 has been peaceful. I know, that's not what you thought I was going to say, right? Well, it's true.

When I imagined what my life would look like after having this third baby I thought my house would be a hot mess, I would want a break from the kids, and maybe if I didn't plan right, my business would suffer. But none of this has happened. In fact, we've had so much help, love, and support that my biggest challenge has been trying to delegate tasks for our friends and family to help us with.

Does the house get messy? Of course, I have 3 kids under 3 years old, it comes with the territory! Are there clothes piled up in my room that need to get organized? Lol, you know it! And I will get to them once I am healed and fully recovered...unless I delegate it to one of my friends haha. Is there anything I would change about having 3 kids under 3 years old? Not one thing. I'm looking forward to all of the play dates, birthday parties, and daily adventures at the park.

My kids make my life way more exciting, purposeful, and dynamic. I wouldn't be the same Tee without these 3 (do you see what I did there? Haha!) and life would be straight up boring. 3 under 3 is the place to be, 3 under 3 is the life for me! Until next time, thank you for all of your love, prayers, and support. Your girl,


Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal