Monday, July 22, 2019

Become Your Own Hero





Brendon Burchard said, "avoidance is the best short-term strategy to escape conflict, and the best long-term strategy to ensure suffering." I agree. If you want to maximize your life and potential you have to accept your current reality and be open to changing it. In today's episode, I am challenging you to let go of bad habits, toxic relationships, debt, and old ways of thinking that are not helping you to achieve your higher purpose and crush your biggest goals! If you are up for the challenge then keep on reading!

"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten."
- Tony Robbins

Let's Be Honest

Sometimes facing the truth is HARD! I mean, who wants to accept the fact that things aren't going as planned and life is kicking you in the butt right now! Almost no one, right? And I totally get it. Some people think that by accepting the truth they will lose hope for the future or stop being positive and optimistic but that doesn't have to happen. We can accept the truth and still have the energy and positive mindset to create a better future.

I had a season in my life where I struggled with this! I wanted to be present to my emotional pain but I didn't want it to become a distraction or grow into an overwhelming or heavy negative feeling. It was difficult for me to admit to myself that my life was going down a completely different path than I had imagined. I was scared of what my future would look like, I felt alone, and at the time I didn't know how to ask for help. Instead of facing my reality, I chose to only focus on the things that were working in my life. Things like my family and my business. Anything that inspired fear, uncertainty, and instability I ignored.

How do you think this worked out for me? Lol, not good at all!

Ignoring these issues almost caused me to miss out on some of the greatest most valuable lessons I've learned to date. When I decided it was time to face my reality head-on I began to take responsibility for my life and the situations that I felt were out of my control. When I addressed my woes I went from feeling stuck to becoming unstoppable. I went from being fearful to having a clear action plan. I went from being a victim to being the hero in my own story. It was crazy! I promise I'll share these lessons in another episode!

If you are currently in this situation I want to remind you that one, you're not alone and two there is a way out.

What Is Your Current Reality?

"Face reality as it is, not as it was or as you wish it to be." - Jack Welch

The only way to get through this is to work through it so before you continue reading I want you to think about your biggest goals and write down exactly where you're starting from. Is your goal to hit 180 lbs and you're currently 210 lbs? How much do you know about health and fitness? What do you know that you could be doing that you haven't started doing? Write it down. 

Are you struggling to pay back $20,000 in student loans but your goal is to be financially free in the next 3 years? What do you already know about creating wealth that you haven't started applying? Write it down. 

Have you tried to achieve your goals before and now you feel tired, disappointed, and frustrated? What did you do in the past that worked for you? What are some things that you know will definitely help you to get closer to get your goals? WRITE IT DOWN! 

This is only your starting point, it's not the end of the story so don't worry if it doesn't look pretty just write down the complete truth of your current situation.

Accept The Ugly Truth

Now, acceptance doesn't mean you're saying this is okay, or you're celebrating the mess in your life. All this means is you acknowledge the truth and you accept that this is the current state of your life. One of my current ugly truths is that I love eating rice. I'll eat it with chicken, vegetables, and sometimes if it's rice and peas (a popular Jamaican type of rice) if I'm really hungry, I'll just eat it alone! I know, eating too much rice is not the healthiest choice and I am on a quest to be healthy so I know I am working against my goals.

However, just because I can admit that this is where I'm starting from, this is my current ugly situation, this doesn't mean that this is where my story ends. I am not my bad habits so I can change them! The same is true for you!

So let's get real! What is your ugly truth? Are you an emotional shopper? Do you overeat for fun or when you have a bad day? Are you actually working towards your goals or are you self-sabotaging? Be honest with yourself.

After you've written down the complete truth of where you're starting from ask yourself if you are ready to correct everything that you wrote down. So review each truth and put a checkmark beside the ones you're ready to change.

"Acknowledging the truth give you the motivation to change it. Accepting the truth helps you to create a clear vision of where you want to go and how to get there." - Tee Forever

Now It's Time For Change

I learned this powerful exercise from one of my "mentors from a distance". She is a world-renown life coach and she helps people to heal broken relationships with themselves and with others. Her name is Iyanla Vanzant (you can go ahead and google her, she's awesome!). A few weeks ago I was listening to her talk about being complete and one the thing that stood out to me that I want to share with you is, once you are complete with something or someone that is the end of that cycle.

Here's an example: Let's say you have a business and you want it to become your fulltime source of income, but you continue to devote all of your time to other things and therefore don't have enough clients or a steady funnel to create more income in your business. How will you reach your goal? You won't. You have to decide that you're done with not having enough money, living paycheque to paycheque and actually take action to change your situation. 

When you are ready to take your life to the next level you will be complete with the ugly truths in your life. You will be ready to do whatever it takes to improve your situation. You will create time in your schedule to work on your book. You will stop wasting your money on things that are not serving your future goals and begin to invest in yourself. You will stop putting your goals on the back burner and truly value your life's purpose!

When this happens your life will change!

So, in your journal (or on the same piece of paper that you wrote your ugly truths on) beside your current reality write down "I am complete with..." beside everything you are ready to change. For example, I am complete with carrying around $25,000 student loan, I am complete with looking for quick fixes to solve my problems, I am complete with spending time with people who are not challenging me to grow, and so on.

Envision your dream life

Close your eyes and envision your life after you crush your goals. What will your relationships look like? How will you begin to talk to each other? How will you interact with each other? How will you feel about each other? Think about your money. How will you manage it? How much will you have? How will you feel with that amount of money sitting in your account?

So let's say right now you're living paycheque to paycheque and you don't have any savings and your swimming in debt but your goal is to save $5,000 by the end of this year. In your mind fast forward to the future and think about the person you will be in order to save this amount. How much money do you need to make? What steps do you need to take? How will you handle money differently from what you're currently doing? What changes will you make to your spending habits? And ow much are you going to save a month?

The primary point of this exercise is to get you to think about the future version of yourself so that you can start becoming that person now.

who do you need to become?

With all of your goals in mind, I want you to envision your future life and think about WHO you need to become. This is going to help you to identify the characteristics you need to develop to attain the levels of success that you dream of. So if your goal is to launch a blog and post consistently so that you can build an audience around what you do, what kind of traits do you need to be able to do this? You'll need skills like organization, self-discipline, creativity, and vision, right? They all play a part in this.

Who do you need to become to write a best selling book?
Who do you need to become to have healthy relationships?
Who do you need to become to make $100,000 a year?
Who do you need to become to have $5,000 be the end of this year?
Who do you need to become to run a successful online business?

After you have this list decide which character traits are most important and start working on those

Summary:

No one is going to save you from your current stressful, overwhelming situation. You have to see it for what it is, accept that this is your starting point, and begin the work of cleaning it up.

BONUS Tip: 

Try to find the lessons that you're learning in this season and be grateful for where you are. Also, remember that you are the one who made decisions that got you to where you are so think about the lessons you can learn about yourself from the ugly truths in your life.

I hope this helps! Don't forget to subscribe here so you never miss a post again! Have an awesome week, until next time, it's your girl.

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal
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