Monday, January 14, 2019

Why On Earth Are You Here?


A lot of people talk about knowing your purpose and creating a life that brings you the utmost fulfillment, but how exactly are you suppose to find out what your purpose is? I mean, are there clear-cut practical steps you can take to find out exactly why you were created? Yes! And I'll walk you through each of them in this post!

I'm not going to lie to you, knowing your purpose is connected to being self and spiritually aware. Although some believe in the big bang theory I come from the belief that there is a definite Creator. He's not only creative and original, but everything He makes is the way it is for a reason. Here's an example, spiders may not be the cutest insects and I'm sure you don't like seeing them around your house, BUT they get rid of all the annoying creepy crawlers that you find snooping around your bedroom like flies, mosquitos, and clothes moth. Can somebody say "thank God for spiders!"? Lol

In the same way that you can see the purpose of spiders in how they were made, you can also find your purpose by uncovering the real, authentic, you! Think about some of your natural strengths, how you function best, when you feel the most creative, inspired, and passionate. These are all indications of what you were created to do! You were made with distinct features, characteristics, talents, skills, and traits. To find your purpose you have to answer questions such as:

Step 1: Self-Awareness

1. What do I enjoy doing so much that I lose track of time doing it?

Example: I enjoy reading, writing, talking/communicating, building relationships, spending time with my kids, etc. Write down everything related to the question that comes to mind no matter how simple you think it is.

2. What skills come naturally to me?

Example: Listening, teaching, writing, singing, public speaking, and so on. Write down everything related to the question that comes to mind no matter how simple you think it is.

3. What are some of my strongest interest or what do I enjoy learning about?

Example: Some of my interest include business, marketing, psychology, personal development, and so on. Write down everything related to the question that comes to mind no matter how simple you think it is.

4. What could I easily do for free that offers people a lot of value, life improvement,  and so on?

Answering questions like these will reveal your passion, natural skills and abilities, and areas of interest so that you can more easily create a purposeful life filled with spontaneous adventures and meaningful learning experiences.

Now please, dont do this once and then send me an email saying "Tee, I love you, but it didn't work! I still don't know what my purpose is" Lol. No! That's not how this works. This is the type of exercise you have to do continually to dig through all your junk! I mean, think about it. You spent years doing the wrong things and following the wrong path so how could doing an exercise like this change your life overnight? It won't! Lol, there are no magic tricks or shortcuts to this thing. You have to do the work if you want the results.

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Looking at your strengths and natural abilities is an easy way to boil down what your purpose could be. Your gifts and talents are not just for your enjoyment. They were given to you so that you can share it in a unique way with the world. Your job is to find this "sweet spot!" and to develop it. What do I mean by sweet spot? Well, I'm glad you asked!

"Your sweet spot is GOLD!"
- Tee Forever

When you find it it's like hitting the lottery! I mean for real! This is the place where your strengths and your passions align and you're able to profit from what comes naturally to you. You will add value to the world in a way that is unique to your design. Yes, you will still have to develop yourself, go through training, and so on, but you'll feel a lot more authentic and connected to what you're doing. A fulfilled and satisfied life is only the tip of the iceberg. You'll also get to experience the real contentment that comes from knowing that you're living the life that YOU were CREATED to LIVE. Trust me, you'll be walking on clouds!

Step 2: Connect The Dots

Okay, so we talked about answering the questions that will help you to easily find your purpose. Now circle all of the common or reoccurring skills, talents, and passions, that you have. This allows you to narrow down your list to a small group of options. 

After you've circled everything spend some time translating your skills and abilities into ways that they can be expressed or marketed in the business world. Remember knowing your purpose determines your vocation and potential business opportunities. With your natural skills, there are real problems and difficult situations that you can solve. 

List about 3-5 industries, careers, or business ideas that your skills could easily serve/add value to.

Example:

The skill of writing can be translated into
- Journalism
- Scriptwriting/Screenwriting
- Editing/Columnist
- Blogging
- And so on.

The skill of talking/communication can be translated into:
- Public speaking
- Sales
- Educator/Teacher
- And so on.

Step 3: 

Once this is done, identify the industries, careers, and/or business opportunities that resonate with you the most. For example, my small list of options would include:

- Editing
- Blogging
- Public speaking
- Coaching
- And so on

Narrow your list down to about 10 options that really get you excited or you feel align more with your interest and skills.

Step 4: Dig Into Your Passion

Now that you've selected the top 10 possibilities sit on these ideas and dig into them for a while. Think of it like a well-cooked stew or chili. You want all of the flavors to marinate together to create the most delicious meal you've had to date so instead of rushing through the process and throwing everything into the pot at once, take your time allow your meat to soak in the flavors overnight, dice your veggies, and enjoy this self-discovery process.

You are a work of art that is complex, full of potential and capable of changing the world (literally). Don't limit your greatness, don't give up on yourself, and most importantly don't allow others to determine who you are or who you can become. 2019 is your year. Until next time, xo!

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal
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Wednesday, January 9, 2019

I Give Up, Goal Setting Doesn't Work!


Oh my goodness! Do you know how many times I've heard this statement? Only about 100,000,000! Lol, I mean seriously. I find that as action-oriented people (myself included) sometimes we tend to jump from one really good idea to the next.

Now the ability to be flexible and open-minded is great! We respond well to new information, we're open to change, we're quick learners, go-getters, you name it. HOWEVER, the downside of this is that we sometimes shift too quickly from one thing to the next leaving us with nothing to show for all of our efforts. Do you know what I mean? Let me break it down for you really quickly.

When we come up with a really good idea or hear something that can potentially improve our lives we quickly respond and start applying what we've learned but we don't stick to it long enough to see results. We don't endure through what I call the growing process. Everybody knows that when you plant a seed no matter what type of plant you're growing you will not get results overnight. You can toil over that seed day and night, add water and nurture it religiously, but it will not cause the plant to grow faster.

"There is a time for everything."
- Ecclesiastes

Like in the example above we have to give ourselves time to mature into who we want to become and we have to give our goals time to manifest. Having an amazing, practical plan to achieve your goal(s) is only step one. Following through with your plan is step two and requires self-discipline and focus. So this is great! You have an effective plan, you've started the process and you're feeling good about it, but step 3 is PATIENCE. Give your plan enough time to produce your desired outcome. Give yourself enough time to go through the growing process, make mistakes, and learn from your experiences.

"Setting goals & goal planning
will never bring you 
overnight success."
- Tee Forever

So this year, let's do things a little differently. Instead of setting goals, seeking quick results, and then giving up on goal planning altogether, let's continue to set goals. Goal setting helps you to clearly define exactly what you want. It gives you vision and long-term focus. It's the passion that drives what you do with your time, money and resources. It ultimately decides who you become. Having a clear goal helps you to achieve clear, precise results. 

Once you've clarified your goal imagine that you've attained it. Think about all of the steps you had to take to get that big result. Did you have to get more training? Change your diet? Find a coach or mentor? What steps did you take to achieve your big goal? Write it all down and get someone with experience in that area or who is an avid goal crusher and ask them to review it. 

Here's a tip: There are many ways to achieve a goal. As long as you have the basic principles (which we'll talk about later this year) included in your blueprint you will start getting results.

After you've written your big picture goal which sets your long-term focus, and you've created a step-by-step guide to get there which sets your short-term priorities you have to work your plan and stick with it until you see results. If you've been rocking with me for any amount of time you know that i talk a lot about enjoying your process to success. The process is apart of the experience, it's what makes the goal worth pursuing, it's like the cream in ice cream or the milk in butter. If you don't take your time and walk through the process, you won't get to taste the result.

The truth is the journey to attaining your goals will add to your personal development in so many incredible ways. Your mindset and beliefs will become stronger. You'll sharpen your decision-making skills and improve your thought patterns. You'll also begin to see opportunity where others see obstacles, develop self-awareness and build stronger self-confidence. Your character will begin to take shape as well as you finally become the type of person you always knew you could be! Oh goodness I could go on about this for days lol! Just trust me, everything in your life improves when you set out to crush a major life goal!

Don't let this year be like 2018. Choose to grow, choose to be different, and choose to actively pursue your goals until you see results. Until next time, xoxo!

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal
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Monday, January 7, 2019

If I Don't Win In Life Is It My Fault?


How many of you have asked yourself this question in one form or another? It's okay, no one can hear you, you can say "yes, I have!" we won't judge you *wink*. I've asked myself this question many times throughout my goal crushing journey because, let's face it, achieving your goals requires a lot of effort and on most days I just didn't want to do it. So, let me ask you if I don't get the results I want in my life is it my fault or can I blame it on other things?

You know what I'm talking about, maybe I can blame someone like God, after all, He made me this way, right? Plus, He owns the world! If there is something He wants me to have He'll give it to me or He will make it easy for me to get it, right? Or what about my environment? Maybe I can blame my friends and family for not pushing me to pursue my goals and develop my potential. They of all people should know how much I want to achieve this goal and they should at least help me to stay motivated, right? Or what about my circumstances! Yes! If I didn't lose my job, get sick, get a divorce, have kids, debt and everything else I would be ahead in life right now. I would be pursuing my goals enthusiastically with no baggage or extra mess to clean up.

These are just a few examples of the kind of stumbling blocks I help people to overcome every day. Is it your fault if you don't achieve the results you want in life? Yes, and here's why I say that (read this carefully). Everyone in the world has access to 24 hours a day. Whether your born rich or poor, white or black, in a wealthy country or in a politically corrupt country. We all have 24 hours at our disposal every day to spend in any way we choose.

Some people will use their time to play video games, watch what others are doing on social media, chill with friends, binge-watch movies, and so on. While others spend their time challenging their perspective of the world, learning about their industry, developing themselves (mentally and physically), networking, gaining experience in their field of interest, and do on.

Now simply based on this example which group of people do you think are in a better position to achieve their goals? The people who binge-watched movies or the people who spent their time developing themselves? The second group right!? Well, that's the key right there.

"Personal development is your plane ticket to your ideal life. It's the price you pay to get to where you want to go."
- Tee Forever

Personal development is the key to achieving your goals. You will never get the results you want if you don't develop your mind, character, skills, and abilities. There is no way around it! You will either pay for your goals in full or you will end up watching other people live your dreams. It really is that simple and it's your choice.

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Now, I understand that sometimes you can find yourself in a disadvantaged position. Trust me, I was born and raised by a single mom, I don't know my dad, my mom passed away when I was 15 years old, I've been sexually abused, I know what it feels like to live in survival mode, waiting for your next pay cheque to roll in and still not have enough money to pay the bills, and so on. No one taught me about goal setting or personal development. No one showed me how to manage my money in a way that would help me to be productive or stable in life. My environment wasn't conducive to helping me to become the person that I am today, but guess what, I am who I am despite my obstacles and disadvantages and maybe these challenges actually helped to develop my tenacity. Your struggle can either work for you or you can allow it to become a crutch and work against you.

"The moment you accept responsibility
for everything in your life
is the moment you gain the power 
to change anything in your life."
- Hal Elrod

There is a way out! Your story doesn't have to end with you stuck in unproductive cycles. It took me some time, but I went from feeling like a rejected orphan to knowing that I am a valued and loved daughter. I stopped being careless with money, started listening to people who were financially wiser than I am and I simply applied the basic money principles they teach. Even to this day, I continue to develop my understanding of money and I'm currently enrolled in a money mindset shift program that is teaching me how to be even more efficient with money. Lol, the learning and personal growth never stops in my world.

"To earn more,
you must learn more."
- Brian Tracy 

I'm sure your story is different from mine but the basic principles are still there. You can go from struggling and not knowing where to start to being organized and having a plan that will get you exactly what you want. You might be thinking, "Tee, it's not that easy. I've tried to improve my life before... nothing works for me." Well, the truth is, nothing works unless you do and you have to give yourself time before you start expecting to see results. You will not lose 10 lbs in a day. You also won't crush your goals overnight. You have to stick with it for the long haul.

Bonus: For Anyone Needing Encouragement

I know that taking responsibility for your life doesn't feel good and you might think it's a lot of pressure, but the truth is, it's liberating. To know that you determine what happens next in your story, you decide whether you're going to die in struggle or rise out of it, you choose what your next move is. That my friend is FREEDOM!

Make the most of your life by choosing to develop yourself starting today. Until next time, xo!

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal
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Wednesday, January 2, 2019

So What If They Don't Believe In You

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 

I took a two-week break from blogging, social media, and everything work related to rest and spend some time in solitude. I knew in advance that January was going to be a very busy month so I scheduled the time away to re-focus, set priorities, and get creative. We're now in 2019 and I can't wait to inspire you to crush your biggest goals for this year! In 2019 you can expect me to challenge you in every area of your life with the goal of helping you to achieve what I call "whole success".

Whole success is achieving your major goals while still nurturing other important areas of your life like quality relationships, finances, and so on. Over the next 12 months, I'll be sharing my personal strategy to overcoming yourself and getting what you want in life. If you're ready to stop dreaming and start doing let's go!
Real Talk

As a coach for goal-getters and people who need help crushing major life goals I've noticed that a common roadblock for people is that no one supports their vision/goals or the people they value don't believe in them, underestimate them, or devalue them. We like to think that these attitudes and "negative vibes" from people around us doesn't affect us, but the truth is it does.

I worked with a client who had a very positive outlook on life, great energy, and determination to achieve their goals, but they couldn't figure out why they had a habit of starting things they were passionate about but always leaving something incomplete, hence not finishing the project/goal. After doing some digging in the first few weeks we found an underlying pattern of self-sabotage related to feelings of insecurity and fear. These feelings were connected to things people said to them, said about them, or the way people treated them. Long story short before we could start making progress they needed to properly address the issues and burn the bridges, committing to complete transformation. They had to uncover their life experiences, stare their mistakes, flaws, and weaknesses in the face and still choose to believe in themself.

"Whether you think you can
or you think you can't - you're right." 
- Henry Ford 

Believing that you can achieve something is the first mountain that you will climb to crush your goals this year. You don't need others to approve of your journey or assist you to your destination. If you believe in yourself you're well on your way. Will it be a lonely journey? Yes, maybe in the beginning but as you pursue your goals you will meet like-minded people who will become your inspiration and supporters. Until then read books about people who inspire you. Keep the fire blazing on your own and maintain a sober focus that helps you to find solutions rather than being weighed down by opposition. Look for reasons to believe that your goals are possible. When you start feeling discouraged or getting distracted remind yourself of all the things you've already accomplished (big and small). 

"The journey of a thousand miles
begins with one step."
- Lao Tzu 

You've got this! Don't minimize your goals because others don't believe it's possible and don't fall off your goal crushing ban wagon because people don't believe in you. You know yourself better than anyone else and especially if it's been done before why can't you be the next person to do it? The future is in your hands. Don't let 2019 slip through your fingers. Work through your fears, minimize distractions and CRUSH YOUR GOALS! Until next time, xoxo!

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal
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Wednesday, December 12, 2018

3 Goal Crushing Myths of 2018 (And The Truth)



Does the "goal-crushing" lingo sweeping through your timeline and news feed have you feeling anxious, confused, or frustrated? Wouldn't it feel great knowing a real practical formula for achieving your goals?

Well, have no fear, your solution is here! Haha, see what I did there? Lol.

Okay, so if you've been reading these post for any amount of time the truth is, you're probably a lot closer to understanding goals than you think. You're also a lot closer to actualizing your goals while creating the lifestyle that you want. If you do the free exercises and apply the practical wisdom that I share here on the blog you will make progress towards your goals daily.

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So, today I'm going to share a step-by-step strategy that our clients use to crush their goals, but before we dig into that let me give you 3 things you do NOT need to do when trying to achieve your goals.

Now this might shock you! As a personal development and goal achievement junkie I've had guru's and experts tell me that I need all of these things to be successful, but I've been able to negate these myths and prove them wrong. Are you ready!? Let's go!

1. Self-Discipline Is Not The Key

You do not need to become the most self-disciplined person you know and you don't have to follow a strict routine or schedule to achieve your goals. Self-discipline is good to have, but I've helped clients who struggled with self-discipline their whole life, hit their goals and even to this day, they continue to see success with goal planning.

2. Make Your Goals #1

The truth is life is busy. Most of us work full-time and barely have any energy at the end of the day to connect with our closest friends. I've helped busy stay at home parents and entrepreneurs achieve their most challenging goals even with tons of responsibilities and priorities trying to capture their attention.

3. One Strategy Works For All Goals

Every goal has different requirements and everyone is unique. We can't try to use one method of goal achievement for every goal we have. Different goals demand different skills and with all of the advancements happening in the world we now have more tools to help in our goal crushing journey.

So here's the truth misleading information leads to confusion which leads to ineffectiveness which means NO RESULT. Here is a simple proven way that I use to achieve my goals and have helped tons of our clients to do the same.

"A goal without a plan is only a dream."
- Brian Tracy

Key #1: Discover Underlying Principles

Spend some time identifying core principles related to achieving your specific goals. Methods and strategies change but principles are universal laws that never change and therefore once you understand these you have a fail-proof way to succeed in anything you want.

Key #2: Take Action

With knowledge of the principles used to achieve your desired goal(s) you now have the advantage to work smarter, not harder. Apply these principles to your life and in time you will start getting the results you want. The main key here is taking action. You have to start working if you want to see a difference in your life.

Key #3: Accountability

The world's most successful people have someone in their life holding them accountable for their goals and challenging them to live more authentically and grow personally. Oprah Winfrey worked with Martha Beck (a life coach), Eric Schmidt (former CEO of google) worked with an executive coach, and Leonardo DiCaprio worked with Tony Robbins (a life coach).

Without accountability, you will not achieve your goals. They will continue to be an inspiring possibility for your future, but you will not have the right structure to get sustainable results and build the life that you envision.

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Finding the right accountability is not hard. Talk to some of your friends and family to find out who they worked with or look for someone who has experience crushing goals and work with them.

Personal growth and goal attainment is achievable for you. No matter how much you've thought about  your goals or made plans to get them done (and have procrastinated) if you're reading this then you still have time!

So there you have it! That's it. Those are the 3 keys to achieving your goals. When you get all of these steps right amazing things start to happen. You make progress and your life starts to look more like your dreams. You'll start feeling like you're living a more authentic life aligned with your purpose and this will add a greater sense of freedom and excitement to your life!

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If you want to start crushing your goals and living more authentically let us help you. Although the strategies I've shared above sound pretty easy, people can sometimes get lost in the implementation. It requires concise goals (S.M.A.R.T Goals), attention to detail, and consistent follow through.

As an early Christmas present for you, I've prepared this free masterclass where I share the exact formula our clients use to crush their goals in our 6 weeks 1 goal program.

You have nothing to lose and trust me, it will change how you goal plan from now on. Sign up now, thank me later, well talk soon. Xoxo!

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal
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