Tuesday, July 9, 2019

Are Your Goals Aligned With Your Purpose?


Today, we're talking about how to practically turn your goals into reality and we're starting with your purpose! The reason why we're starting here is because a lot of people try to pursue their goals to create their "dream life" without understanding why they're doing it. So I have to ask, why are YOU pursuing your goals? How do you know if your goals aligned with your purpose? Your purpose is the power behind why you do what you do and it ultimately fuels who you become. I'm going to walk you through the 3 things that I did to discover my purpose and show you how you can apply it to your goals! Are you ready? Let's dive in!

self-awareness

It all starts here! If you are not self-aware how can you expect to know what your purpose is? It's like trying to build a house without the right foundation. You can't create your dream life without understanding your purpose because your purpose creates a vision for what your dream life should look like.

If you achieve a goal without knowing why it's important or how it connects to your purpose then your life will feel empty and all of your efforts will be in vain. Your purpose is the ultimate dream that you are trying to achieve. This is what is going to bring you the most fulfillment, deepest satisfaction, and feelings of being complete. If you want help identifying your purpose try this quick exercise.

Application:

Take some time this week to get to know yourself by:
  • Journaling
  • Reflective thinking
  • Examining your thoughts
  • Reviewing your triggers
  • Studying yourself (thought patterns and behaviors)

Why are you here?

Do this exercise with me. Grab a piece of paper (or your journal) and a pencil and write down at the top of the page, WHY AM I HERE? Now write down everything that comes to your mind no matter how big or small it seems.

Once that is complete review everything that you've written and be honest with yourself. Ask yourself "Am I living this right now? In which area of my life is this being applied?" If you believe that you're here to change lives and influence your culture. How are you doing that now? Have you started? Are you involved in your community in any way? Are you apart of any organization that allows you to grow in your leadership abilities? If you haven't started where can you start? How can you start actualizing this goal today?

There is nothing sadder than dying with business ideas, unwritten books, unreleased music, and underdeveloped skills all because you were too afraid to take risks and believe in yourself. There's nothing worse than dying with untapped potential left inside of you!

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My friend, one thing I know about you is that this is not how your story ends. You're here because you want to turn your goals into reality. You're here because you know that life has more in store for you. You're here because it's time to live your life on purpose and fight for your mission.

My Story

I remember just a few years ago I was dreaming about doing the things that I do now. I wanted to help people maximize their life and develop themselves so that they could attain the levels of success they dreamed of but I was too afraid to start. I doubted myself, my ability to lead, my ideas, and honestly, I thought who is really going to listen to me? I didn't know where to start, fear was eating me alive and so I chose to procrastinate.

I told myself excuses like "you're not ready yet, you don't know what you're doing, and you don't have enough experience or knowledge to share". I would have kept quiet and you probably wouldn't know me today if it wasn't for one of my mentors who reminded me that I am here, on earth, to help people like myself, with big dreams, cultivate their greatness and achieve their God-given destiny.

Everything that I needed to get started and be successful was exactly what I had. Everything that I knew and had experience doing was exactly what I needed to share with you. I didn't need to know everything or have it all together. I just needed to take action!

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Now 19 months later look at what I've been able to accomplish! Within a few months of launching my blog, I started getting inquiries from people from around the world including places like America, Europe, and Africa who were looking for opportunities to work with me! Can you believe it?! I know! I still feel like I'm living a dream!

This is what birthed my online program 6 Weeks 1 Goal where I help people to get clear on their goals, learn and implement proven principles that work to get sustainable results and I provide direct support and feedback to help them stay on track to maximize their life.

I also started getting speaking engagements, business opportunities, and writing gigs! Lol if I shared all of the offers I've received since starting this blog you would be like "What in the world!? How did that happen?" Haha! I've had all types of doors begin to open and the truth is, this can be your experience too!

Stop Dreaming & Start Doing!

If you don't allow fear to silence your voice and kill your dreams you can turn your goals into reality! There are no limits to what you can achieve! Stop doubting if your vision is possible because it is. Stop questioning whether or not you can do it because you can. STOP looking for validation or approval because you already have everything you need to be successful right now in your in hands.

It's time to take action. The only bridge between where you are and where you want to be in action. No one can do it for you and no one can stop you from crossing it. You have to take one step at a time and make it happen.

"I want to see your passion in action"
- Tee Forever

What do you want?

When I started my goal crushing journey I had to dig deep and ask myself "Tee, what exactly do you want? Aside from surface level things like money, influence, and knowledge, deep down, what is important to you?"

For some people, their deepest desire is to get married and have kids. They can't wait to experience this because they think once they have it they will feel complete, understood, and accepted and they won't' have to experience life alone anymore. What is it for you? What do you think that if you accomplished it, it would make you feel complete? Write it down.

Now, what if I told you the one thing that you think you want isn't actually what is going to bring you the freedom and deep satisfaction that you want to feel? What would you think? You would probably say I'm crazy, right? Lol well, listen to this. The feeling you think you're going to get from getting what you want or being "successful" is something you can start feeling now.

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You don't need more money to feel at peace, you don't need to be married with 2 kids living in a beautiful home to be happy, and you don't need anything external to feel successful and satisfied. You can have these feelings now without the perfect living conditions or the thing that you want. Do you believe me?

If this doesn't make sense just hit play and start listening to the podcast starting at about 19 minutes and I will explain this to you in detail!

Summary

Knowing your purpose is easier than you think. It's not something that you have to find outside of yourself, it's something that you discover about yourself. Spend time getting to know yourself, understand why you're here on earth, and get clear on exactly what you want to get out of your life!

I hope you got a lot out of today's episode. I'm so happy that you chose to spend time with me! Don't forget to subscribe so that you don't miss a post. Until next time xo, it's your girl

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal



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Monday, June 24, 2019

How I Stay Disciplined



Help! My goals are a mess, I don't know what I'm doing, and I feel stuck! Just raise your hand if you've ever been there! Yup, I raise my hand with you! I've struggled to crush MANY goals! I remember there was a time when all I did was brainstorm, create strategic plans and TRY to overcome procrastination. It took me a long time to crack the code!

No matter how many times I wrote my goals down on paper and committed it to memory, I couldn't get myself to get it done! I felt stuck. Especially when it came to simple goals like food and diet. It was almost like I had no control over myself. I really wanted to achieve my goals, but I didn't want to force myself to do (or eat for that matter) things that I didn't enjoy! The truth is, I simply did not want to exercise self-discipline.

Let's Be Honest...

Who actually enjoys disciplining themselves? Like, do you know ANYONE who gets excited about cleaning the bathroom every Saturday or meal planning every Sunday? Lol, me neither! And it's because discipline doesn't come naturally to us. Think about this, society is set up to create discipline for us without teaching us how to become disciplined. Don't believe me? Keep reading!

In North America, most of our life is spent with other people telling us what to do and holding us accountable to do it. Were expected to attend school from about age 4 until you were 19 years old. Then we are either expected to study some more which means attending college or university until age 24 or we can get a job straight out of high school. No matter which route we take we end up spending the rest of our life working and this means having someone tell us what to do and hold you accountable.

This kind of system is normal and has taught us to depend on an external structure to be disciplined. We need someone watching over our shoulder to make sure that we follow through on what we're expected to do because we don't have enough discipline to get it done by ourselves. We need someone to monitor our lunch breaks because we don't have the discipline to get back to work on time, right?

Most people never learn how to be disciplined so when they try, they end up like I did...confused, frustrated, and ineffective. But just because you start off this way doesn't mean this is how it has to be for the rest of your life.

Discipline Is Easier Than You Think...

Discipline is about leaving behind what's good, for what's best. Although it might mean practicing a few extra rounds in the gym or turning down dessert at your favorite restaurant, discipline is consistently choosing things that will get you the highest return and bring you the best results.

Discipline is bigger than just doing what you don't want to do, it's self-love. Why do you think someone can go from being a meat lover who hates eating vegetables and salads to becoming someone who eats a mostly plant-based diet?  Do you think that all of a sudden they stopped loving meat? Or maybe they got tired of eating meat?

No, they learned a way of eating that helps their body to perform at a higher level and decided that instead of compromising and settling for minimal body function they want to treat their body better. They are thinking long-term! They want optimal health! They saw the value in changing their diet and changed. This is the essence of self-love.

When you see value in yourself it's easy to create a structure that will lead you directly to your goal.
Discipline is that structure, but developing it is not easy. Trying to have discipline without a strong motive won't work.

That's exactly what I was doing when I set the goal to get my license and buy a car (I share this in the podcast). My motive wasn't clear and therefore it wasn't strong enough to get me moving. I wanted a car so that I wouldn't have to rely on public transportation, but deep inside I was okay with public transportation. It was convenient there was a bus stop right across the street from my house at the time. It was comfortable, I had been riding the bus since I was a kid, and it was safe. I knew my way around the city. My reason for getting a car wasn't compelling enough for me to actually take action.

Here is a quick self-awareness exercise 

Answer these yes or no questions to get a better understanding of your relationship with discipline - Want a free, in-depth walkthrough? Listen to this episode!

1. I am still in the same position that I was in just last year
2. I am still struggling with the same limitation, excuses, and feelings that have kept me from crushing my goals
3. I have you been self-sabotaging my progress by not becoming...
4. I allow myself to get off the hook easily with excuses like "I'm tired, I worked hard today I deserve a break so I'm not going to work on my goals tonight"
5. I prefer the planning process over taking action

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After you honestly answer these questions decide how you want to move forward. Do you want more structure in your life? Are you going to get some form of accountability? How will you break the cycles of procrastination in your life? Do you need a stronger, more compelling why to pursue your goals?

There is a famous quote that says "one day or day one". This mean you can choose to postpone your goal eventually get started one day or you can tell yourself that today is the day that you start working toward it. The choice is yours. Have a question, feeling inspired, or just want to say hi? Send an email to community@theresaforever.com. Until next time, your girl

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal
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Monday, June 17, 2019

Nothing Outside of You Can Stop You From Crushing Your Goals



Ever wonder why you can't seem to overcome procrastination or develop a habit of self-discipline? Maybe right now you find yourself struggling to follow through on your goals because you simply don't have time or you think it takes money to make money and right now you just can't afford it. If this sounds like you, pay attention because today I'm going to walk you through how I achieve my goals by practicing the habit of self-discipline.

What is self-discipline?

I heard a great definition by Will Smith. He said self-discipline is a form of self-love. When you love yourself you have a desire to take care of your mind, body, and soul. You want to protect the treasure that in buried within your heart. You understand that you're valuable and to function at your highest level you have to eat things that will support your body and help you to have optimal health so that you can consistently perform at a level that serves your purpose and ultimately leads you into your destiny. Self-discipline is choosing your highest good in every situation.

Here's an example: 

When you notice that your body is physically out of shape and you decide that you want to get back in shape so that you can wear anything you want without doubting how attractive you look, and you also want to enjoy more physical activities outside like running around at the park with your kids or taking long walks across the beach. Whatever it is, you decide you want to be physically fit so you start eating natural, clean, whole foods like fruits and vegetables, right? You meal prep and then you go into work the following week and they have your favorite lunch waiting for you in the kitchen at the office! Chinese food! MMmmmmm! They have your favorite deep fried chicken wings with the sweet and sour chicken balls and you're all time favorite pork fried rice. Woouu! It's tempting right. You want to compromise and have a little taste of the fried rice but at the same time, you have put a lot of work into being consistent with your diet. Your torn between what's best for you which is sticking with your meal plan and what feels good to you right now at the moment which would be eating every last crumb of the Chinese food. Which one do you choose? I want you to think about it right now.

If you're like most people your fitness goal ended right there in your office kitchen. Science has shown that 91% of people do not achieve their goals. Is it because their lazy? No. because they did get started so we know that they are willing to take the necessary steps to eat healthier and prepare better meals, right. Did they change their mind and now think they don't need to get fit? Of course, they still feel insecure and self-conscious. Maybe now they also feel like a failure because they compromised their goal for a quick fix. So what is it then? If their not lazy and they still see their need to get healthy, what is stopping them from crushing their goal.?

They are stopping themself.

Get Out Of The Way

Until you understand that you are your only competition your life will be a continual cycle full of distractions. Nothing outside of you can stop you from crushing your goals. The battle that you face and the tension that you feel inside is related to whether or not you are willing to dismiss and completely reject temporary gratification.

How much do you want your goal? Think about it right now. Out of 5, how much do you want to experience your big dream of working for yourself, becoming a best selling author, having passive income that replaces your full-time income, impacting your community, losing the excess baby weight, or whatever your big goal is. What would you do in order to experience that goal? What are you willing to let go of and stop doing so that you can focus on pursuing that goal?

This is where most people kind of trip over themselves and start self-sabotaging because although they strongly believe that they want to be successful they are not willing to let go of short term gain to produce long-term wins. They don't want to say no or practice portion control with the Chinese food because eating it makes them feel satisfied in the moment, but in the long run, they end up feeling hopeless, tired, insecure and defeated.

Keep Your Eyes On The Prize

To develop a habit of self-discipline you have to remind yourself why your goal even matters. What will being healthy do for you? How will it affect your family? How many years of your life will you get back? How much longer will you live once you don't have to worry about diabetes, high blood pressure, and other health problems? Who will you become once you lose the weight? How will you present yourself differently to the world? What will your social life look like? What about your dating life? Keep your eyes on the prize!

"Be stubborn about the long-term vision but flexible on the details. 
- Jeff Bezos

Become someone who loves yourself enough to say no to every distraction that attempts to steal your heart away from the things that you desire the most. Become someone who values your purpose more than your comfort. Become someone who is led by a vision of what's possible instead of drowning in what you currently see.

We all know that short-term gratification comes with a high price tag. So the next time you're offered a short-cut that leads you away from your goals, stop, evaluate the cost, and then make a sober decision to keep the promise you made to yourself and follow through with your goals. Until next time, your girl

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal



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Think Big, Aim High, Act Bold




How do I turn my goals into reality is a question I get asked all the time. Do I need to become more disciplined? Learn the right strategy? Or connect with the right people? All of these things can help, but they are not what determines how close you get to achieving your goals. Tony Robbins said it best “the path to success is to take massive, determined actions.”. If you want to start seeing results with your goals it's time to think big, aim high, and act bold!

Your Only Limit Is In Your Mind: Think Big

Think about someone in your life who whenever you talk to them you feel tired and drained. All they do is complain about how sick they are, how much money they don't have, or how they just can't get ahead. Now think about someone who inspires you. You know the person at work who is always smiling. What is it about them that encourages you to want to be around them? Is it their attitude? Maybe it's their friendliness? Nope! I'll tell you what it is. The only difference between the first person you thought of and the second is their mindset.

I know we hear this word thrown around a lot right? There are mindset coaches and people who can help you to master your mind so that you can begin living your best life, but what exactly does mindset even mean?

When I joined Money Mindset Shift, a program that helped me to understand how to create long-term wealth and develop my relationship with money I wasn't sure about what mindset meant. I had a surface level understanding and thought we would work on my thoughts related to money or examine my behavior with money to see how I can improve my thoughts, but truth be told lol, I was clueless!

After enrolling in the program I quickly began to understand that my mindset is the core of who I am inside. It determines my decisions, beliefs, perspective, and feelings. My mindset is packaged in every word I speak. My mindset is revealed in every step I take. My current situation (good and bad) in life is a direct reflection of my mindset. When I understood this I was blown away and challenged to get smart about what I allow into my core (mindset) and to clean up the money mess I had created.

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When you understand that your only limit is in your mind because your mind is the core of who you are (it's like your control center) and you create your life, business, family, and so on out of this place then you'll able to conquer your biggest challenges. Nothing outside of you can stop you from crushing your goals. Big thinking helps you to see possibilities, find solutions, and work through challenges. Big thinking unlocks your ability to be resourceful. It produces wisdom and helps you to apply the knowledge you have to get the results you want.

"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." - Albert Einstien

You get in life what you have the courage to ask for: Aim High

I remember reading a quote by Solomon Ibn Gabriol that said, "a wise man's question contains half the answer." What! That is deep, profound wisdom! Of course, I quickly posted it to twitter and I couldn't wait to see the comments roll in!

How do I turn my goals into reality? This is a question that is clear, direct, specific, and intentional. It opens the door to resourcefulness and helps you to pave a new path, almost like putting a puzzle together, it stimulates your creativity and helps you to find a way to get it done. You already have everything you need to succeed you just have to take action.

"You get in life what you have the courage to ask for." - Oprah Winfrey

Aim high. Ever wonder why two people who grew up in the same environment can turn out completely different? One becomes a successful purpose-driven entrepreneur who supports charities and gives back to local schools while the other can barely keep a job, struggles to develop deep meaningful relationships, and feels lost (lacks a sense of definite purpose). What happened? I think it can boil down to a few things one of them being their expectation in life.

The purpose-driven entrepreneur believed that regardless of his current situation of lack and poverty he will master life. He will figure out how to create a brighter future for himself and his family. He turned his setbacks and disappointments into fuel to pursue his goals. The other guy who experienced the same trials as the first interpreted his experience as fate and convinced himself that he could never keep a job, he wouldn't be able to get ahead in life, and no matter what he did he would stay at the bottom.

When you think big (clear and master your mindset) and aim high (ask the right questions and create a plan for your success) you set yourself up for massive growth! Nothing external can stop you from achieving your goals but you. It's that simple.

Trust Yourself: Act Bold

Robert Frost said, "Freedom lies in being bold." If you never take the first step to achieve your goal don't you think you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "what if I had written that book? What if I had taken that opportunity to speak at that conference? What if I had started that business and passed it down to my grandchildren? What if...?"

50 years from now will you look back on your life with regret or will you share your story with pride inspiring your grand and great-grandchildren to think big, aim high, and act boldly? Will you feel a sense of completeness like your work on earth is done or will you feel unsettled because you never got that song out into the world, you never finished writing that book, or you never launched that blog.

You can't always see how your actions will affect others but believe me when I tell you, what seems small to you can have a big impact on someone you may or not know. Your dreams were given to you for a reason. Choosing not to do it, is not an option. Don't you think you've delayed it enough? It's time to get busy turning your goal into something tangible. I want to see results. I want to see a physical manifestation of your years of studying, mentorship, and training.

You don't have to have all of the answers, you just have to get started. You don't have to know all of the right people, you just have to get started. You don't have to know how to do it all yourself, you just have to get started!

"You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." - Zig Ziglar

Until next time, your girl tee forever stop dreaming and start doing.

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal



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Create Your Success From The Inside Out




What is your definition of success? What is it that you want to see happen in your life and without it, you would feel incomplete like there's something missing, or like your mission has not been accomplished? I'll tell you, for me, I believe that we were all created with a purpose. We were each uniquely designed to do or create something specific. So for me, I would feel like my mission in life has not been fulfilled if I don't tap into my higher purpose, find out what I was created to do, and walk that out.

I don't know about you but sometimes I spend time wondering how successful people created their success. Like Beyonce, how did she grow her influence? Or Bill Gates how did he develop the idea to invent a product that people can't live without? Or Dr. Sesus how did he create a series of books that are now timeless classics? You might look at these questions and find simple answers like Beyonce was signed to a major record label and had the support of a good marketing team and publicist, or Bill Gates was a genius with a lot of experience, however, the answer is much deeper than that.  

Successful People Think Differently

They aren't subdued or conquered by fear or disappointment. They don't grow impatient with themselves when they make a mistake or fail. They see things as it relates to their big picture. They aren't distracted by things that are meant to serve as temporary delays. They don't get caught up in people's opinions. They experience fear but are not fear driven. They feel the sting of disappointment, but they don't allow it to define who they are and what they can accomplish. They see the challenges they are up against, but they don't turn it into an excuse or reason why they can't achieve success.

Your reason for pursuing your goal (meaning your why) has to be bigger than the surface level satisfaction you will feel once you do. This means your goal has to be connected to your ultimate purpose. You have to know that your goal is worth pursuing, that it matters, that it makes a difference. You have to connect the dots and understand how your current decisions and actions will affect future generations. Think about this, how will crushing your goal set a new standard for your kids and grandkids? Seriously! Lol

You might be thinking "Tee, it's not that deep! My goal is only to lose 10 lbs" or "my goal is only to generate some extra income" but think about how pursuing this goal will change your life and in effect change generations after.

For Every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction: Newtons 3rd Law

We will always reap what we sow. There is a consequence for every action so when you decide it's time to get in shape and you stop buying food that doesn't support growing healthy gut bacteria, and the production of vitamins and healthy cells in your body then and only then will you change your family history. Then and only then will you begin to impact your community for the better. Then and only then will you become a role model, a standard, a light for others to follow. Does that make sense?

Your choices directly affect those around you (friends and family) and your community. I want you to remember this every time you tell yourself "I don't have the discipline to achieve this goal, I don't have enough money or experience, or I don't know where or how to start."

Instead of believing these excuses take out your journal and write down solutions. Write down the thought and then underneath it write a realistic way that you can get it done. For example: (share the example below):

Example:
Problem: I don't have the discipline to achieve this goal 
Why I believe this/Proof this is true: I never follow through on my goals, I never meet deadlines
Solution: Get accountability - friend, family, coach, mentor, community

Your perspective determines what's possible

If you see the world as being a cold and dark place that is what you will experience. If you see life as being long and hard this is exactly what you will get. If you don't want to see the light at the end of the tunnel you will remain in darkness. Your perspective determines what you see and how you see determines what's possible for you.

So whether you have a big business goal to triple your income in the next 6 months or a personal goal to mend some broken relationships how you see the situation is what will determine the outcome and every action you take will return an equal and opposite reaction to you. Until next time, your girl

Theresa Forever
Founder, 6 Weeks 1 Goal



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