Let’s Work: Uncovering The Root of Your Self-Sabotage & What To Do About It (Part Two)


Let’s Work: Uncovering The Root of Your Self-Sabotage & What To Do About It (Part Two)

Theresa Forever

Welcome back for part two of this series! If you missed last week, we have been talking about how to clear up the junk in your life so you can minimize self-sabotage and other unproductive behavior that keeps you from getting to your next level. If you haven’t listened to part one, you can check it out here to get caught up! But if you’ve done that already and wanna dive into part two, hit play and let’s gooo!

How Your Past Wounds Are Affecting Your Present Relationships

What would you say if I told you that your relationship with your mom lays the foundation for how you relate to other women? It might sound strange but think about it. If you don’t have respect for the first woman in your life (your mom), how could you know how to respect any of the others? Whether you’re male or female doesn’t matter, it’s a principle.

We know that how we do one thing becomes a filter for how we do everything. So if your relationship with your mom is rocky or incredibly strong and resilient, then that becomes the model for how you interact with women which is why paying attention to our relationships can help us to understand what is happening in our life and what to do about it.

Personal Story

I remember years after my mom passed away, I would unintentionally look to older women in my life who considered me to be their friend, as mother figures. I never communicated this expectation but in my heart I really hoped they would take me under their wing as a daughter, not a friend.

None of them wanted this responsibility nor did they know I was putting that kind of pressure on them. So whenever they would fail to meet my unspoken expectations, I would feel disappointed and rejected.

I know it sounds silly because they had no idea I had these expectations. So for me to choose to feel disappointed is a bit selfish but I chose to feel rejected and disappointed because truth be told, that’s how I sometimes felt in the presence of my mom. Not because she was mean, abusive, or spiteful, but mostly because I had unspoken expectations with her too. Do you see it? It’s a PATTERN! Hit play for more!

How To Overcome The Cycle of Self-Sabotage

This is my favorite section of the entire conversation! You gotta hit play and when you do, here’s what you’ll hear.

  • How to recognize and minimize self-sabotage
  • Why self-sabotage is actually self-betrayal
  • How to stop manipulating yourself into doing things that are not healthy/good for you
  • Ways that you dishonor yourself and how to break that cycle

How To Make Healthy Choices That Benefit You

We often feel guilty for prioritizing our needs, goals, dreams above what others want from us, but what if there was a way for you to create boundaries with everyone (yourself included) that would help you be more productive?

Jennifer talks about this idea of making healthy choices which is a choice that is in our best interest and allows us to get the most out of our lives while inspiring others to do the same.

Until Next Time

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